1. Ends the marriage too quickly.

 

  1. Criticizes the other parent in children’s presence.

 

  1. Fights in children’s presence.

 

  1. Makes wrongful assumptions.

 

  1. Ceases access to a child.

 

  1. Uses the wrong or hurtful words.

 

  1. Uses the child as an informant or a spy.

 

  1. Uses a child as a confidante e.g. sharing your negative feelings in the divorce.

 

  1. Forces a child to choose sides.

 

  1. Defaults in the payment of child maintenance

 

  1. Being manipulated by a child without realization.

 

  1. Not complying with the access arrangement.

 

  1. Neglecting your own care.

 

(adapted from “Still a Family – A guide to good parenting through divorce” by Dr Lisa Rene Reynolds)