1. Ends the marriage too quickly.

2. Criticizes the other parent in children’s presence.

3. Fights in children’s presence.

4. Makes wrongful assumptions.

5. Ceases access to a child.

6. Uses the wrong or hurtful words.

7. Uses the child as an informant or a spy.

8. Uses a child as a confidante e.g. sharing your negative feelings in the divorce.

9. Forces a child to choose sides.

10. Defaults in the payment of child maintenance

11. Being manipulated by a child without realization.

12. Not complying with the access arrangement.

13. Neglecting your own care.

(adapted from “Still a Family – A guide to good parenting through divorce” by Dr Lisa Rene Reynolds)