1. Ends the marriage too quickly.


  1. Criticizes the other parent in children’s presence.


  1. Fights in children’s presence.


  1. Makes wrongful assumptions.


  1. Ceases access to a child.


  1. Uses the wrong or hurtful words.


  1. Uses the child as an informant or a spy.


  1. Uses a child as a confidante e.g. sharing your negative feelings in the divorce.


  1. Forces a child to choose sides.


  1. Defaults in the payment of child maintenance


  1. Being manipulated by a child without realization.


  1. Not complying with the access arrangement.


  1. Neglecting your own care.


(adapted from “Still a Family – A guide to good parenting through divorce” by Dr Lisa Rene Reynolds)